ANGER AND ITS BENEFITS
An average kid would typically grow up having the feeling and impression (usually from his immediate environment; family, for instance) that anger is something that shouldn’t be felt or experienced, and if ever felt, should be immediately made to evaporate into thin air, so to speak, because it could only be a sign of impatience and lack of some virtue if ever expressed.
Well, the fact is that anger is just one of the many inherent emotions we possess as humans. Anger is just another form of expressing our emotion, pain, sadness, rejection and a way of expressing our negativity. it’s inbuilt! it’s completely normal and humanly to lose your cool now and then.
OKAY, IT'S AN EMOTION? WHAT ELSE!?
Anger is a natural automatic response to pain, sadness, negativity off
one form or another (physical or emotional). Anger can occur when people don’t feel well, feel rejected, feel threatened, or experience some loss.
Anger never occurs in isolation but rather is necessarily preceded by pain feelings, it is often characterized as a ”secondhand” emotion.
Anger, Thoughts, & Social Behaviour
Pain alone is not enough to cause anger. Anger occurs when pain is combined with some anger-triggering thought.
Thoughts that can trigger anger include personal assessments, assumptions, evaluations, or interpretations of situations that makes people think that someone else is attempting (consciously or not) to hurt them.Due to this fact, anger is considered a secondary emotion, in that it is almost always triggered first by a preceding primary emotion fear, for instance.
In this sense, anger is a social emotion; You always have a target that your anger is directed against (even if that target is yourself). Feelings of pain, combined with anger-triggering thoughts motivate you to take action, face threats and defend yourself by striking out against the target you think is causing you pain.
Anger: A Substitute Emotion
Anger can also be a substitute emotion. By this we mean that sometimes people make themselves angry so that they don’t have to feel pain. People change their feelings of pain into anger because it feels better to be angry than it does to be in pain. This changing of pain into anger may be done consciously or unconsciously.
Although uncontrolled anger can be quite costly, but when channeled properly anger can also be very positive.
On my next article we will be disccusing about the benefit of Anger
Anger is not really what it’s said to be.
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